It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want some sexual action, on a casual gay hook up with a hot and horny guy you’ve clicked with on Gay Adult Chat. Sex is an important human connection that benefits wellbeing.
Whether your preference is a NSA hook up or a friend with benefits (FWB) booty call, you can expect to enjoy a consensual and safe experience on a date that’s successful, if you follow these rules…
Know what you want
When you’re feeling horny and in the mood to get your rocks off, it’s important to know what you want and to pick with purpose.
A hook up is casual sex with someone you fancy but barely know.
A booty call, on the other hand, is a NSA encounter with a fuck buddy you’re already familiar with.
If you’re looking for Mr Right, having a casual hook up is a great way to check a connection before deciding if you want something more committed with that guy. To avoid any misunderstandings, let the FWB know what you want upfront, and be clear about your expectations from the outset.
Check your emotions
Before making adult fun plans, it’s a good idea to check in with your emotions.
Still nursing a break-up bruised ego? Perhaps it’s best to delay a casual hook up, in favour of some quality solo playtime for a while. When you’re feeling lonely or vulnerable, it’s easy to mistake a sexual playmate’s advances for something more meaningful.
Once you let go of the emotional baggage, you’ll feel more in control and better able to make casual sex decisions that are based purely on your pleasure and gratification.
Don’t be flaky
While you should let go of any expectations, on a NSA casual hook up, it’s absolutely essential that you show up at the time and place that you’ve agreed on.
If you want your sex partner to view you positively, it’s important to be reliable, respectful and honest.
Safety first
As casual sex is all about banging without commitment, it’s probable that you and your fuck buddy are screwing other people. It’s vital to accept that neither of you get to dictate who the other is fucking.
It’s absolutely essential to always use a condom with everyone you get naked with. Safeguard your sexual health by ensuring that protection is non-negotiable. Use plenty of good quality lube, and don’t forget to use a ‘safe word’ when having kinky sex.
During sex, don’t get carried away and try to push your partner’s boundaries. Always be respectful when trying out new moves, playing with sex toys or exploring erotic fantasies. Allow your partner physical and mental space to decide if they want to try something new for the first time.
Adopting an open-minded, emotional entanglement-free approach will also boost the success rate of your NSA liaisons.
Keep it physical
A gay hook up that has no strings attached should be focused entirely on physical pleasure. It’s the time to savour the exhilarating adrenaline rush and not the place to intimately explore feelings.
Maintain healthy boundaries by sharing a minimal amount of personal information with the hot guy that you’re dying to fuck. Direct the dialogue by giving your lover encouragement, and telling him exactly how you like it.
Play by the rules
If you have plans to explore BDSM and role-play games, on a gay hook up, don’t be a dick about boundaries. Kinky sex games require lovers to follow a code of conduct, and to treat each other as equals, regardless of whether you’re playing the Dom/Master or the Sub/Servant.
As hook up sex comes with no expectations attached, it’s important not to change your mind over a one-night stand, especially if you’ve told him that’s all that you’re interested in. Things can get real awkward when one partner just wants to get laid and nothing else, but the other starts fantasising about happy-ever-after.
Expecting to spend the night at your fuck buddy’s place, or to have breakfast in bed together in the morning, is guaranteed to ruin a great night of casual sex. Play by the NSA rules and avoid making yourself at home at his abode. Take a shower and grab a quick coffee, but respectfully leave before the situation becomes uncomfortable.
If you’re hooking up at your place, be clear that you don’t want to feel that your home is being invaded. When your one-night stand finishes their drink, don’t hesitate to politely show them the door.
Sticking to these essential rules will help to ensure that you have a great time on a hook up with someone you’ve clicked with on Gay Adult Chat.
